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Success After Multiple Miscarriages, Is There Hope?

I want to share a personal story with you and I’m sure I’m not the only one who has experienced this. Miscarriage is a touchy subject. It’s sensitive, full of pain, and sometimes causes many women to lose hope. But could there be a way to overcome this? I want to share my experience about my success after multiple miscarriages, and maybe give a little hope to those who are going through this.

As you read through my post you will see that i’ve included some books that I think could be helpful in understanding and coping with miscarriage.

The Experience

By 2007 I already had two kids of my own, ages 4 and 5 so you would think that having a miscarriage wouldn’t have hit me as bad. Why should it? I was lucky enough to be blessed with kids and shouldn’t be greedy, right? Wrong.

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Grieving the Child I Never Knew: A Devotional for Comfort in the Loss of Your Unborn or Newly Born Child

I never experienced a miscarriage before, I was young, (24) and this was all new to me. What I didn’t know is that for a period of time before the miscarriage I had been suffering with depression. I didn’t put the pieces together until after, but this is something that women should be aware of.

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Knowing your body and knowing when something is off will help you maintain mental health even after something as brutal as a miscarriage strikes. Especially if this isn’t your first miscarriage.

So, when I was 24, I was hit with the miscarriage bug! I was devastated. Even though I was only 11 weeks pregnant I had already grown attached to the idea that I would be introducing a new little one into my family and I had already grown to love it.

I was so stressed and overworked that I didn’t bother to take the time to really take care of myself and my baby as I probably should have. I guess I just thought that as long as the baby was inside me it would be okay. Again, I was wrong.

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Loved Baby: 31 Devotions Helping You Grieve and Cherish Your Child after Pregnancy Loss

Taking care of your body when you are pregnant is just as important as taking care of the baby once they come into our world. You have to eat properly, take your vitamins, try to get little exercise, and plenty of rest.

I didn’t know this and I made a big mistake.

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Knowing what foods to eat and what is forbidden is also needed, as well as what medications you can and can’t take.

So, here I was, 24, alone for the first time in my life, and spiraling down a road to nowhere and then the unthinkable happened. I tried to commit suicide. The mind is a tricky thing and it’s easy to lose yourself when you go through trauma. When you are experiencing a traumatic situation, the best thing you can do is to surround yourself with people who love you and are supportive of you.

They will help you cope with the situation and help you to get through it so you can go on with your life.

And yet again.

In 2011 my husband and I were pregnant again. This time again, I was so excited, but because of my prior experience, I was hesitant to feel much of anything the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. Once I passed that point, I was the happiest person alive.

I thought for sure, I would have this baby and all would be right in the world, but yet again, something that had never happened to me before happened. At 18 weeks of pregnancy my placenta detached from my body.

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Miscarriage Mom: The Unspoken Realities of Miscarriage and How to Cope

If you don’t know what a placenta is, it is an organ that develops in your uterus during pregnancy. This structure provides oxygen and nutrients to your growing baby and removes waste products from your baby’s blood. This is absolutely needed for a successful pregnancy.

So, what happened to mine?

Well, I had a condition called “Placental abruption” It’s when the placenta peels away from the inner wall of the uterus before delivery — either partially or completely — when that happens, a condition known as placental abruption develops. This can deprive the baby of oxygen and nutrients and cause you to bleed heavily. Placenta abruption could result in an emergency situation requiring early delivery. (source)

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No one knows why it happened or how, but at 18 weeks of pregnancy I had to deliver the baby and once he entered our world he lost all consciousness. The hardest part for me was knowing he was alive and when I made the choice to end the pregnancy, I made the choice to end his life.

Luckily this time I knew what to do automatically. I made sure to be around family and friends and not let myself get swallowed up in a smoke of depression. I was sad, yes, but I was prepared, and that makes a world of difference.

The hardest thing I had to do was to tell my kids that the baby I was carrying was no longer with us. And as my daughter cried I tried my hardest to comfort her. Two weeks before Christmas I had to break such horrible news and I was so afraid I would devastate them.

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Our Heaven Baby: a book on miscarriage and the hope of Heaven

This could leave you with a feeling of guilt. Wondering if there was something you could have done differently. Truth be told, sometimes these things just happen and there’s nothing you could have done to prevent it.

So, what about your future of having a baby, will you be able to?

Depending on the situation that caused your miscarriage, your doctor will be able to tell you if this is something that is possible. There are situations that are beyond your control, but in some cases, you will be able to go on to have a successful pregnancy.

After 2011 I was worried that I would never be able to have a baby again, not because I couldn’t get pregnant but because the chances of carrying a baby full term just seemed impossible. But I was wrong. Yes, there are chances that I could go through the same placental abruption again, but there was also a chance that I wouldn’t.

In 2016, I was pregnant again, and this time, I took my medical history to my doctor in the beginning and worked out a plan to help me have a successful pregnancy.

The not so fun part? Getting a shot of progestin in my butt once a week from 16 weeks until 36 weeks of pregnancy. They hurt but the reward was worth it. I was put on a medication called “Makena.” This medication was used to help me lower the risk of having a preterm baby. I’m guessing it worked!

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Want to know more about Makena? Click here for my source.

For the first time in all of my pregnancies I had gestational diabetes. That wasn’t fun either. Insulin shots, and watching what I was eating especially with cravings was such a bummer. But it’s manageable and I made it through.

But you know what? In July 2017 my son Jayden was born 6 pounds even. I never would have guessed I could be so lucky, and until he was actually here I was so hesitant to bank on the idea that I could have a healthy baby. But it is possible, and it could be for you too, so make sure to look at all of your options and talk with your doctor and most of all…

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       Jayden, 1 Day Old

DON’T GIVE UP!

If you had a miscarriage, or multiple I would love to hear from you. Did you manage to have a successful pregnancy afterwards? Please share your experience with us. I’m sure other trying moms would love to hear your story, leave your comment below, and thanks for reading my latest post.

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12 Comments

  1. Well now. You’ve got me crying. Thank you for sharing your story. I have not personally ever lost a child but a couple of my nieces have and it just hurts to think about it. My daughters are that age now that I am expecting news of babies will be forthcoming in the next couple of years. I hope when that time comes all will be well but sadly, miscarriages seem to happen more frequently than they used to. Or maybe people just talk about it more openly. It’s good to know that there are helpful resources available. Thanks so much for sharing.

    1. Thanks Theresa for reading my post. I hope you guys never have to experience this, but in the case you do, please refer them to my post. Maybe I can help with the coping!

  2. Lindsay says:

    Hi Jen – thank you so much for sharing your story of hope. I’m so sorry for your loss of your two babies, and I’m very happy to know that you have your beautiful boy! I don’t believe that you did anything that could have contributed to your condition, sadly nature takes its own route and miscarriage will happen to many women regardless of circumstance. My aunty lost four babies – she had two miscarriages and two stillbirths and yet she went on to have three healthy sons. She always grieved for those babies and there is no way of knowing the cause, especially since this was in the 1960s. I’m so glad you are blessed with your beautiful little son and your other children! I hope your post will help other women who face what you have and thank you for telling your story.

    1. Hi Lindsay, this is true. As moms we are not to blame for losses such as these, but it doesn’t eliminate the feeling of guilt and anxiety. I just want to share this so other women can see that sometimes these things happen and they are not alone. Now with medical advancements, we are better than ever and it makes a world of difference. Thanks for reading my post and sharing your experience.

  3. Hi Jen,
    Thank you for sharing your story. It must be hard going through all of that, but I believe happy end erased all the sorrow. Jayden is a beautiful and very lucky boy. It’s so nice of you that you shared your experience which will surely help other women in similar situations. Cheers!

    1. Hi Blanka, Thanks so much for reading my post. I’m hoping that sharing my story will help other women to overcome if they ever have to experience anything like this. When you are going through it, you often feel alone and like you are the only one that has experienced it. But there are a lot of women that go through this very same thing. I love a happy ending, and it is true, i can erase the pain that was once there. It did for me.

  4. Thanks for your very informative article. It was good of you to share your personal experience. It must have been very difficult to have gone through so many pregnancies that did’t go to full term. Your story will definitely be helpful to women experiencing similar situations.
    I have not experienced a miscarriage. I have two grown children now. I am suspecting they will be trying to have children of their own in the next year or two. It’s good to know that there are resources out there that can provide some comfort and strategies when dealing with a miscarriage.
    Best Wishes to You
    Angela

    1. Thanks Angela, and thanks for reading my post. I’m happy to share my experience to help women no matter what the outcome was. Having support is a major thing when something like this happens. Please share.

  5. MW says:

    Jen,
    That was so heartfelt and raw and vulnerable. Thank you for sharing this experience. I know how hard it can be to open up about this sort of thing especially on the internet. But I want to thank you for sharing your story.

    I have personally not experienced a miscarriage but my sister has and I know it can be devastating. I am also familiar with losing someone to suicide so I know the darkness surrounding that.

    I am so happy that you were able to pull through and gain a positive perspective through such a traumatic event, and I am so happy for you to have had a successful pregnancy after miscarriages. Your little boy is so adorable and such a blessing! Congratulations!

    I will share this article with my friends and family who I know have suffered through the tragic loss of an unborn child. I really appreciate you sharing this.

    M

    1. Hi M, Thanks for reading my post! For years I was in a shell, afraid, in and out of therapy and ashamed for the person I had become. Truth be told, sometimes it’s just better to share the story and try to help someone else get through it. I’ve finally reached a place in my life where I am starting to find the real me and every experience in my past has contributed to it. I’m glad that I was able to overcome it and although I still have some tough times, I am in a good place and I want other moms and women to know that they are not alone and have support. Miscarriage is such a hard thing to go through and it is often downplayed because it happens so early in the pregnancy but there was still a life there, a beating heart, and it was a part of you. People often don’t understand, but I do and I want to help.

  6. This such a touching story and very brave of you to share with us! A lot of other women going through this will benefit from hearing what you have gone through and how you overcame such a traumatic experience.
    In my first pregnancy I was pregnant with twins and just at the 12 week mark baby ‘b’ stopped growing. I was terribly sad but as you say I was still blessed with my beautiful baby ‘a’.

    1. Hi Amber, Thanks for reading. I’m hoping to share this information so other moms and moms to be will see that they are not alone. I really hope my experience can help them to cope better with their own situations and benefit better from it. There are resources out there and I just want to help. Thank you.

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