Thank you to all the soon to be moms and dads, and moms and dads out there who have taken the time to check out my website. I know how hard it is to have a moment to ourselves once we have our little bundles of joy. For you to take the time out of your day to look at my posts says a lot so I want to say a thank you to moms and dads as be begin or continue your journey.
I really hope to use the knowledge i’m learning as a new mother to help moms and dads out there. If there is anything I can help with please let me know. My little guy is a blessing to my heart, and I just want to share. After two failed pregnancies, and not being able to get pregnant for another six years after, I was so ecstatic to finally have my little baby here.
If you haven’t had your baby yet, anticipation is rising. You’re excited, you have everything in place, and you just want the day to arrive when you can meet your sweet little baby. If you are feeling overwhelmed with anticipation, I have a tip.
When I was waiting day after day for my little guy to be born, that last couple of weeks seemed like an eternity. I would lay on my back on the couch with my knees up, crack the window, because it was the beginning of summer, and I would sing to my baby. It may sound silly, but it helped me to feel so much better. I felt like I was connecting with my little one. I would sing song after song and it was relaxing.
Singing lullabies would help me to keep calm, I would have steady breathing, and I was relaxed and unstressed. It was probably the one thing that helped me to get through those last couple of weeks.
For The Dads
I know sometimes with a new baby at home it can feel like you’ve been replaced. That’s not the case. I know me and my husband struggled with this for a while. All of Mommy’s attention is on her new bundle and you’re left wondering what you can do and if there is anything you can help with. Mommy’s probably a little hesitant to leave baby with you so you feel left out. This is natural. One thing to remember is although you fathered the baby, your beautiful wife or mother of your child carried your baby for 40 long weeks. I was afraid to leave my baby’s side for even a second. Give the mother of your baby some time, she will come around and before you know it you will be on diaper duty.
Make sure to be considerate of her feelings, try to keep her comfortable, ask her if there is anything you can help with and she will let you know. Try to be patient with her and her feelings because this is a very sensitive time for her. Things will get back to normal. If you notice Mommy getting anxious, overly tired, or unable to control her feelings, talk to her. Be aware of her feelings, needs, and wants and you will do just fine.
The stress of having a new baby can become very overwhelming at times, especially when you are home all day and just need a minute to breathe, remember to take care of yourself, and you’re mental health. Postpartum depression is a real thing, so don’t overlook it. If you ever feel like being a new mom is just too much to handle, and you need a good cry, don’t be afraid to say so.
The support of family and friends can really make a difference in helping you to feel better. It’s okay to feel sad and emotional, that doesn’t mean you love your baby any less. Remember all those hormones pumping through your body? Well now your body has to adjust and get back to normal after not carrying your baby anymore. This takes time, and sometimes you can feel unbalanced. There is nothing wrong with that.
Maybe you just need a glass of wine. Being a mother is a lot of work. Sometimes we don’t realize the toll we are putting on ourselves, and we forget that we have to take care of ourselves as well as taking care of our precious little baby. Take a nice bubble bath, light some candles, put on some relaxing music, and let go just for a second. That’s what the support system is in place for, so you can be a happy, healthy mom. If you are breastfeeding make sure to reach out to your doctor before that glass of wine.
If you’re feeling stressed because you feel you just don’t know what to do, that’s okay. You’re a new mom. There was no training manual on becoming a mother, as long as you love your baby, the rest will fall into place. You will learn along the way just like all of us. Don’t feel bad, incompetent or ignorant. Just ask questions, read books, or do some research. The answers are out there.
If you don’t know where to start, I can recommend is a book I hold near and dear, What To Expect The First Year. I referred to that book faithfully if I was ever feeling uneasy about something with my baby boy. There are plenty of answers in there to probably just about every question you will ask and there’s just a lot of useful information. With my baby being 19 months now, I have moved on to the next book and it’s a blessing to have. If your baby is a little older, What To Expect The Second Year is a parenting book on 12 – 24 month old toddlers. You can find a lot of useful information on the internet but sometimes it’s just handy to have a book.
If you are unsure if you are struggling with Postpartum Depression, check out the link below, and be sure to make a call to your doctor just to be safe.
I hope all works out for the best for every expecting mom and dad, and every new mom and dad. We are all in this together so you don’t have to feel alone. Reach out. If you are just in need of tips for your baby, I always have new content going up, and if there is something you need help with that I haven’t covered yet, let me know, chances are I went through it I just haven’t covered it yet.
Thanks for taking the time to read my letter of thanks, feel free to leave a comment below if you want to share your experience as a mom or if you have suffered with postpartum depression. I’m sure other moms would love to hear you story. Thanks for reading my latest post.
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